While performing social media consulting work for a child psychologist, my eyes were drawn to a Psychology Today magazine sitting in the office lobby. The headline for the cover story read “Odd Emotions: Master The Feelings You Can not Name.” The title alone was intriguing enough to stoke my interest because, well, I'm a “highly sensitive person” and I often experience emotions that I can not quite name or explain.
There Are Just No Adequate Words, Or Are There?
So-oo … not too long ago, I struggled with understanding some emotions that I can best describe as a ball of intertwined feelings occurring simultaneously. It felt like an explosive double roundhouse kick to the gut from Ronda Rousey that left me dazed, confused, hurt, angry, scared, humiliated, and traumatized.
And those are just a few of the emotions that converged upon my spirit in one fell swoop. But the worst part was not able to explain or comprehend the emotions, nor that no one else seemed to understand it, either.
Fast forward to the other side of my multifarious emotions, I discover that these “odd” feelings really do not have one name. When artist and writer John Koenig was not able to label his emotions of dying death, he just invented one, “moriturism,” and says “it [his emotions] felt somehow okay.”
He then created a website that serves as a dictionary describing emotions that have no name using a combination of creativity, linguistic research, and etymology to assign a name and meaning. For instance, “exulansis,” he has determined is a noun which means “the tendency to give up trying to talk about an experience because people are unable to relate to it-whether through envy or pity or simple foreignness-which allows it to drift away from the rest of your life story, until the memory itself feet out of place, almost mythical, wandering restlessly in the fog, no longer even looking for a place to land. “
The word is a present verb from its Latin root exul, which means “to exile, banish.”
Fluff or For Real?
You may be wondering, if people really remember or use these words. Highly likely not, but psychologists suggest in the article that naming or labeling an emotion “might make it more manageable,” “allow us the opportunity to choose our response,” and “help to put a frame around more complex emotions.” I would agree with them, because I believe being able to name what I was previously feeling would have helped to redirect my energy because I spent a lot of time just processing my emotions and the experience.
Others may see it as a pointless exercise that probably will not be useful, but Koenig believes it helps individuals to understand that the same indescribable emotions that are feeling have been felt by others. The experience may also encourage the practice of honoring one's sensitivity and personal emotions in a constructive manner. That's a lot less exhausting than the alternative, which is running from or suppressing emotions in hopes of an exulansis.
What do you think about “odd” emotions? Are there inventive words you've heard or used to describe an emotion or even an experience, whether good or bad?