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Discovering Hidden Truths In Dreams

The scientific method of dream interpretation discovered by Carl Jung and simplified by me who continued his research accurately translates God's words in dreams, proving that God works as a private therapist for every person. All dreams contain important messages about the dreamer's mental health.

All dreams contain information about many other matters. They reflect how the world really works.

I had information about the origin of the human conscience and about the absurdity of the anti-conscience. According to this information, I verified that our satanic anti-conscience existed before the creation of our planet.

All animals represent parts of the anti-conscience that characterize different human beings. Every animal represents a different type of person, and every person is a part of our personality.

If you know the dream language you can understand the information contained in your reality. Everything can be translated exactly like dreams, and the information you have thanks to this translation helps you understand many things about your reality and the future.

Our planet reflects what is happening in our brain.

The ocean in dreams represents craziness, which occupations the largest part of our brain. The same way, the ocean occupations the largest part of our planet.

The dream language helps us understand the symbolism existential in our reality and its messages to our conscience. Everything in our reality has a symbolic meaning that reflects our absurdity, or teachers us the importance of goodness.

This happens because we are too absurd. We need many lessons to be able to understand our absurdity. So, everything in our reality gives us similar lessons to help us understand the truth about our mental condition.

The archaeological discoveries made thanks to the information contained in dreams prove that human beings are violent primates that think like demons. We did not evolve at all during so many years because we are too absurd.

These discoveries are related to the study of the remote past of our reasoning. If we analyze our history we will verify that we are violent, absurd, and cruel.

Our barbarous civilization proves this fact, like many other civilizations of the past. I already showed you a series of horrors that are happening everyday in our world.

We have to understand that what is happening in our world reflects our satanic nature. The fact that we are indentured to poverty proves that we have a satanic nature. Our immorality proves that we are absurd and evil. We are not merely imperfect human animals. We are crazy monsters.

So, we have to stop admiring ourselves.

We should not be proud of the fact that we are rational animals, while all the other animals of our planet are irrational because all animals were created by God in order to give us practical lessons about mental health and the dangers of violence.

We have to analyze the human history and our fossils with a different perspective now that we know the preparation made by God. He gave us an image of what happened for the formation of the anti-conscience. The characteristics of our planet and the various civilizations that lived in the world were gradually giving us information about our reality.

Now that we have scientific knowledge and Carl Jung discovered the hidden code for the translation of the meaning of dreams we can understand the meaning of the symbolic dream language, and use this knowledge to discover a lot more.

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Stop Treating Your Symptoms – Heal Your Mind, Body, And Spirit

How are you feeling right now? If you know you are generally healthy, check for minor symptoms. Are you feeling tense anywhere in your body-neck, shoulders, lower back ache, abdomen, headache, exhaustion? Are you struggling with a serious health diagnosis and are you experiencing symptoms from your health condition?

If you are experiencing the nuisance of minor physical symptoms, concerns with the stress of serious health or simple curiosity about how you can maximize your vitality and longevity, I am pleased to share with you what few Americans know, because it is suppressed by the AMA , APA, and FDA.

The truth: Your Body Knows How To Heal Itself

Your body is designed with natural self-repair mechanisms that are under the influence of beliefs, thoughts, and feelings that originate from experiences, education, religion, indoctrination, and conditioning.

Your body has innate intelligence on how to kill cancer cells, fix broken proteins, slow aging, eliminate toxins, fight infections, get rid of foreign bodies, and, then, keep you healthy. Things, can go awry and disease manifests when these self-repair mechanisms are lacking emotional, physical and spiritual support to function properly.

Here is the truth meter. Your nervous system has an innate physical protection system – the “fight-or-flight” stress response dominated by the sympathetic nervous system and the relaxation response run by the parasympathetic nervous system. It is only when your nervous system is in a relaxation mode that your body's self-repair mechanisms function properly!

The 'fight or flight' stress response was developed to protect you from danger. But These days, we're pretty safe from danger, and yet our stress responses get triggered, on average, over 50 times per day. How? The amygdala in your 'fight or flight' brain perceives negative beliefs, thoughts, and feelings, such as financial fears, relationship worries, work stress, loneliness, or pessimism, as threats equally scary or dangerous. Then BOOM. The scaredy-cat-amygdala goes on red alert, and when this takes place, your immune system can not repair itself. No wonder your symptoms intensify until it gets your full attention!

The three main chemicals that are released in a stress event are Adrenaline, Norepinephrine, and Cortisol. Each has a unique purpose.

  • Adrenaline is produced by the adrenal glands after receiving a message from the brain that a stressful situation has occurred.
  • Norepinephrine is a hormone similar to adrenaline, released from the adrenal glands and also from the brain has signaled a stress event.
  • Cortisol is a steroid hormone, commonly known as the stress hormone produced by the adrenal glands.

You can circumvent the stress response. You can be proactive to activate your body's natural self-healing mechanisms.

Six Easy To Activate Healing Tools Are Key

There is no legitimate reason to be at the mercy of your stress responses. These scientifically-proven health tools are highly effective health and wellness strategies for any health issues you might be faced with currently or you may face later on.

Step 1: Believe You Can Heal Yourself – You Can Only Change What You Believe You Can Change

Do not believe that positive belief can heal the body? Think again! The holistic health care establishment has been providing that the mind can heal the body for over 50,000 years. Traditional Western Medicine calls it “the placebo effect,” and it has been proven to cause resolution of symptoms- and real physiological change – in 80% of the people in clinical trials who are treated with nothing more than sugar pills, saline injections, or fake surgeries.

When you believe your condition is “incurable” or “chronic,” it will be. Do not believe your health condition could possibly be resolved? Check out the Spontaneous Remission Project, a compilation of over 3,500 case studies providing that spontaneous healing has been reported for every symptom. Stage 4 cancer, HIV, diabetes, high blood pressure, thyroid disease, autoimmune diseases, even an untrained gunshot wound to the head!

For the indoctrinated and conditioned skeptical mind, reading these case studies will bring a paradigm shift. It's like the story of the 4-minute mile. Exercise physiologists believed the body was physiologically incapable of running a mile in less than 4 minutes – and so no athlete ever did. Then in 1954, Roger Bannister developed a strategy to break the 4-minute mile. He ran a mile in three minutes and fifty-nine seconds. Once that limiting belief was shattered, virtually every athlete who competes in a world-class event has run the mile in under four minutes. Today's world-record time for the mile is 3:43:15, more than 15 seconds under 4 minutes.

When you believe that the body can not heal itself is like the 4-minute mile. As Henry Ford is credited with saying, “If you think you can do a thing or think you can not do a thing, you're right.”

Critically important, you can only change what you believe you can change! I will say that again: You can only change what you believe you can change! This is about neuroscience, not some mumbo-jumbo or pie in the sky lingo, but neuroscience based on actual observation. Neuroscience says that you can change only what you believe you can change! Wayne Dyer, stated, “You Will See It When You Believe It.” Yet, he restricted himself from going the full distance, in practicing what he preached.

Therefore, the next time you tell yourself something is an impossibility think again. What are your blocks? What is your fear?

For a long time, people have weighed evidence, analyzed and taken measurements to answer, “What should I believe?” It is clear now that the wrong question. The right question is, “What do I want to believe?” – Harry Palmer Scientific data proves that when you believe healing is possible, it can be. So what do you want to believe?

Step 2: Find The Right Support

To say that you can heal yourself is a misnomer because the scientific data proves that, equally essential to positive belief is the nurturing care of holistic health practitioner, who are optimistic and shares your positive beliefs, includes you in true partnership, respects your intuition, cares for your well-being, and ensures you that you will not be alone on your self-healing journey.

Furthermore, an effective health care team needs to include holistic practitioners in three health aspects – Mind / Emotional, Physical. and Spiritual. Having the right health care practitioners on your health care team is essential.

Step 3: Listen To and Honor Your Body And Your Intuition

Nobody knows your body better than you, not even a Western Medicine doctor with tests, MRIs, etc. in hand. Doctors know the arteries and muscles of the leg or the anatomy of your organs better than you, but you know what's best for your body better than anyone else.

Yes! Your body is your responsibility. So listen to your intuition and trust what it tells you.

Not in touch with your intuition or do not know how to access it? Then listen to your body, which is one vehicle your intuition uses to speak to you. If you have a physical sensation in your body – pain, tightness, nausea, clenching, dizziness – ask your body what that part of your body wants to communicate to you. Then listen up! This is the voice of your inner wisdom and it will lead you directly to your true needs.

Step 4: Discover And Access The Root Cause Of Your Symptoms

Your holistic practitioner may give you one kind of diagnosis- migraines or irritable bowel syndrome or breast cancer, for example. But the kind of diagnosis I'm talking about gets at the root of what might have triggered stress responses in your body and deactivated your body's self-healing mechanisms, thereby giving the symptoms to signal that something is amiss.

What aspects of your life are activating your stress responses? What relaxation response-inducing activities – like meditation, unique personal expressions, laughter, engaging in work that inspires you and you love, massage, yoga, playing with animals, being in nature, including being near fire and water. What have you been neglecting?

Symptoms are simply a wake-up call, thus, compelling you to get down and serious with what's really true in your life. You can either play the victim or you can use the symptoms as an opportunity to awaken to emotional and spiritual growth.

If you're struggling with a physical issue, what might lie at the root of it? The majority of human emotional, physical, spiritual distress and dis-ease is rooted in childhood traumas or past lives.

Step 5: Write The Prescription For Yourself

This is not a prescription you fill at a pharmacy. It's more of a self-guided action plan intended to tune your Self for optimal health and full recovery.

Ask yourself, “What do I need to heal?” Your Prescription may include diet changes, an exercise program, and a naturopathic holistic health and wellness plan. It may include leaving a toxic relationship, quitting a soul-sucking job, adding a meditation practice, taking steps to eliminate debt, or following a passion.

Make your prescription specific. You need to muster the courage to put your plan into action! If later you discover it has too many changes, too few changes, or needs difference changes you can rewrite the prescription.

Step Six: Surrender Attachment To Outcomes

What if you've adopted a positive attitude, found the right holistic health practitioners, tapped into your intuition and your mind, body, and spirit, diagnosed the root cause of your health condition, written The Prescription for yourself and put it into action- but your symptoms persist? Are you doing something wrong? Is it your fault the symptoms persist?

Absolutely not – and any beliefs, thoughts or talk of guilt, blame, or shame for someone on a healing journey only activates more stress responses and arms your entire system.

So what's the reason? This is when the art of surrender comes in. Some people do everything “right” and spontaneous healing transformation transpires. But others are the proverbial choir- and the symptoms persist. What is the solution? Honestly, it is a puzzle. The only real answer is a spiritual one. Perhaps your soul came here to go through challenges, that require deeper attention and to develop your spiritual practice more deeply, a way to learn to meet your life challenges head on your soul's journey. Therefore, you may need to include past life work with a Certified Past Life Regression practitioner.

When you have followed the 6 steps and you've done everything to make your mind, body and spirit ready for miracles -the rest is out of your hands. Take deep breaths, trust The Universe, surrender attachment to any particular health outlet, and let any health condition you face be an opportunity for emotional and spiritual awakening.

You Are Unique

Are you motivated to put each of these steps into action? Will you do what it takes to reduce stress responses in your body and increase relaxation responses so your body can repair itself?

Take a moment and check in with yourself. How is your body feeling right in this moment? If you're generally healthy, check in for minor symptoms. Is your neck feeling tense? Does your lower back ache? Do you have a headache? Are you exhausted – again? Or perhaps you're battling a more serious health diagnosis and you're experiencing serious symptoms from your health condition.

Whether you're experiencing the nuisance of a minor physical symptom, the more worrying stress of a serious health condition, or simple curiosity about how you may maximize your vitality and longevity, I'm psyched to share with you something medical school.

Attaining Physical Health and Wellness requires you to make healthy choices in nutrition, exercise, leisure and relationships.

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If you desire real change, I invite you to contact me for this life-changing opportunity.

This moment is the first moment of the rest of your life. Are you willing to take the steps required to claim your happiness, success, fulfillment, and enlightenment? Will you take advantage of the opportunity to create a new reality for your life?

It's time to shift and get prepared for what's coming up for your life … so I want you to put your heart and soul into paying close attention to how much mental, emotional and physical pain you are in. Then, step by step you can make the shift gently, easily, and without having to deal with the mental and emotional pain and stress of not knowing what to do, not feeling your best, and all the other OLD WAYS that are holding you back .

Remember you might need to ask for assistance, or hire a service or person to help you keep it all going.

Here's to living your dream life NOW.

There is no shame in asking for assistance to create happiness and success. If you have read the books, taken workshops, had psychic readings, taken prescriptions and OTC drugs etc. and still struggle; you may have emotional blocks preventing you from moving into your happiness and desires.

This is an investment in your health, happiness, success, fulfillment, and enlightenment. Following the principals in this process will change your life forever and I want you to experience it yourself as soon as possible. Remember only you can take care of your happiness and emotional, physical and spiritual health.

You are worth it. You deserve to create your happiness, dreams, and desired success. What are you waiting for? You deserve to have someone to take you by the hand and walk you through the maze of unknowns, or to guide you through the obstacles and twists and turns. This is your opportunity to create the dreams you desire.

This is to your health, wellness, happiness, success, fulfillment, and enlightenment. I am here to only to be really helpful. You deserve success, fulfillment, happiness and blessings you desire.

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The Importance of Breathing for Qi and Wellbeing

We all need to breathe to survive. In fact, it is hardwired into our brain. How long can you hold your breath before you start breathing again? Time can vary from person to person, but you can not help but start breathing. This is because breathing, like all other vital functions of the human body, are uncontrolled by the brainstem. Your heart pumps on its own. Your stomach and small intestines digest your food without your direction. Breathing is essential to living and how you breathe is essential to the quality of life.

Breathing Technique and Qi

Breathing is very much tied into the development of qi. In fact, there is a whole set of breathing exercises combined with physical movement for this purpose (and health): Qigong. How we breathe is more important than you may think.

Most of the time, you hear people say to slowly take a deep breath, but what is a deep breath? When you breathe in through your nose, the air enters your lungs. After your lungs fill to near capacity, your diaphragm drops down to make room for your lungs to fill to capacity. Both your chest and abdomen expand with the air you are inhaling. When you hear someone mention abdominal breathing, this is what they mean.

As you inhale, you are channeling the qi to the qi center of the body. There is a point a couple of inches below your belly button, hence the importance of taking a complete breath. Inhaling, holding, and exhaling your breath in this manner not only activates and strengthens your qi, but develops control of qi as well.

Breathing to Reduce Stress

Proper breathing also has a beneficial effect with regard to stress. When we inhale deeply, we are increasing the amount of oxygen in our body system. Oxygen is vital to the proper functioning of all internal organs (especially the brain). A malfunctioning body can result in various stresses, physical and emotional. The key here is not just to breathe, but to breathe calmly, deeply, and deliberately.

Firstly, remove yourself from stressful surroundings (at least for a little while). Find someplace quiet, free of distractions and excess stimuli. You want calm surroundings so that you can relax more easily. Whether you're sitting down, standing up, or even lying down, make sure you're back straight. Poor post affects your breathing more than you think it does. Once situated, take deep permeate breaths. Inhale and exhale slowly, without rushing.

All of this may seem obvious. Most of us are told to breathe and count to 10 when we need to calm down, but the deliberate action of deep breathing takes more concentration that it looks like warrants, and that is key component. Focusing on your breathing forces you to attend to the present moment and present endeavor. Without the past and future to crow your mind with regrets or worries, your stress will lessen. The added oxygen and more efficient circulation will provide much needed oxygen and nutrients to your brain. You may also find that you are better able to handle (or think about) what is stressing you after you've stopped focusing on it. Breathing can help give things some perspective.

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Worry, What Good Is It?

“Can all your worries add a single moment to your life? Luke 12:25 NIV

One of my favorite sayings is, “You always worry about the wrong thing.” How often do we fret, worry and lose sleep over something that never comes to pass? Worry really does us no good what-so-ever. In fact, we now know that it is bad for our health. If we are concerned about something we should take action, and pray about it. Anxiety and worry are stressful, yet solve nothing. How much of your life have you spent worrying about bills, first impressions, political correctness, interviews, taxes, grades, or your health? If you really think about it, how beneficial was any of the worried that you did in the past? The Bible is very clear on this. God wants us to relish on him and not to worry about what might come to pass.

King David had many varied experiences in his lifetime. Since his enduring faith in God, he also experienced the evil side of humanity, not only as a king who saw evil around him, but as an individual who succumbed to temptation. He had committed adultery with Bathsheba, the wife of one of his generals who was away at war, and had had her husband, Uriah, killed. Bathsheba had David's baby, but it died as an infant causing him to mourn and repent of his sin.

His life experience, ranging from being a rationalous powerful king and a leader in battle to a repentant sinner, has made him a unique perspective on God's relationship with both evil and good people. His message to us in Psalm 37 contradicts wicked people and the correcteous. He tells us that if we have faith, and trust in God, we should not be worried about the wicked people around us. In fact we should not worry at all since the Lord will take care of our every need.

Do not fret because of those who are evil, or be envious of those who do wrong; for like the grass they will soon wither, like green plants that will soon die away. Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture. Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this: He will make your righteous reward shine like the dawn, your vindication like the noonday sun. Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; do not fret when people succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes. Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret – it leads only to evil. For those who are evil will be destroyed, but those who hope in the Lord will inherit the wind. Psalm 37: 1-9 NIV

Paul had devoted his life to serving Christ and spreading the Gospel. On his life journey he had experienced many extremes. He had enjoyed great wealth, and had also suffered excruciating poverty. At times he had been warmly accepted, at other times he had been thrown in jail. Regardless of his circumstances, his relationship with Christ had enabled him to find joy in everything he did, and with everyone with what he came in contact. In his letter to the Philippians, which is all the more remarkable since he wrote it from a Roman jail, Paul was reminding them that if they wanted to stop worrying, all they had to do was to pray more! These words, written about 61 AD to the very first church on the European continent, offer good advice for people today:

Do not worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God's peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4: 6-7 NLT

King Solomon, son of King David, was known for his wisdom. He wrote the Book of Proverbs in order to share his knowledge, wisdom and practical advice. He had an extraordinary ability to convey great meaning in very short verses, as exemplified by his reference to worry:

Worry wears a person down; an encouraging word cheers a person up. Proverbs 12:25 NLT

God sent Jesus to Earth to be our Savior. Jesus taught us that the way to enter God's Kingdom was through faith in him. On the subject of worry, he could not have been more specific or clear:

So do not start worrying: “Where will my food come from? Or drink? Or my clothes? (These are the things the pagans are always concerned about.) everything else with the Kingdom of God and with what he requires of you, and he will provide you with all those other things. troubles each da; y brings. Matthew 6: 31-34 GNT

Many of the early Christians were aborted and persecuted for following Christ. Peter had experienced this suffering personally. He had been beaten and thrown in prison for his beliefs. In his first letter, which was written for the benefit of all the other earyl Christians who were suffering, he reminded them to trust God for deliverance from persecution, and not to worry. He was speaking from his own experience when he wrote:

Humble yourself, then, under God's mighty hand, so that he will lift you up in his own good time. Leave all your worries with him, because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5: 6-7 GNT

Jeremiah was a prophet who ministered through the reigns of the last five kings of Judah from approximately 627 to 586 BC Throughout that period Judah was declaring in terms of morality and following God's laws. Jeremiah's main theme was to try to convince the people to give up the sinful life and renew their relationship with God. Jeremiah quoted God about the bountiful and worry free life enjoyed by those who follow the Lord:

Blessed be the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit. Jeremiah 17: 7-8 NIV

In Psalm 55, King David prays to God to help him overcome the grief and anguish he dreams after he discovered the treachery of a trusted friend and companion. At the end of the psalm he reflects on what he knows God wants him to do. Let God pick up the burden of his worries and concerns:

Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the correcteous be shaken. but you God will bring down the wicked into the pit of deceay; the bloodthirsty and deceitful will not live out half their days. But as for me, I trust in you. Psalm 55: 22-23 NIV

Jesus frequently used parables and stories to get his point across, but at times he simply asked questions that brought home the meaning of his lesson with perfect clarity. Luke related one of those times when Jesus used this technique when talking with his disciples about the subject of worry:

Can any of you live a bit longer by worrying about it? If you can not manage even such a small thing, why worry about the other things? Luke 12 :: 25-26 GNT

There is a lot more to Bobby McFerrin's song, “Do not Worry, Be Happy” than a catchy tune with a Reggae beat. Generally this powerful four word phrase is attributed to Maher Baba, an Indian mystic (1894-1969) who used it frequently in his writing, but I believe it perfectly captures Christ's desire for us to put our faith in God, and trust him regardless of the situation. Doing so enables us to live without worry and desires worried from encroaching on our happiness.

Copyright 2016 All rights reserved worldwide, Robert W. Boyd.

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Don’t Let Your Disease Define You!

By the time most of us reach our sixties, seventies and beyond we have faced health challenges. It may be back surgery, cancer, heart problems and other chronic debilitating illnesses. Face with these challenges we have two choices. We can give in to our disease and accept the inevitable. Or we can fight and refuse to let the disease define us.

I have a friend with Multiple Sclerosis who has the most amazing attitude towards life and his disease. He has made a life changing decision. He determined that he would not let Multiple Sclerosis define him. He did not want to be known in his words as “The guy with MS”.

That was fifteen years ago when my friend was sixty. He now is seventy-five and leads an active, engaged life with the zest and energy of a much younger man. How did he do it? Did he find a miraculous cure? No, he simply refused to let his disease define him and put barriers on how he wanted to live. Now he readily admits that he went through a period of feeling sorry for himself and angry and fearful at what the future might bring. But early on he looked himself loose from these thoughts and made a decision to fight MS. Here are some of the actions he took.

  1. Became an expert: He research and read everything on the disease.
  2. Took Action: Knowledge is power, but only when you apply your knowledge. So my friend with the help of sound medical advice took action.
  3. Joined a Support Group: He joined local and national support groups and became a local speaker person for persons with disabilities.
  4. Eats Right: He maintains a healthy diet eating only whole foods, lean protein and lots of veggies. He also takes supplements known to improve his condition.
  5. Exercise: He alternates between strengthening exercises and swimming. One day he is lifting weights and the next day swimming a half mile in the morning and again in the afternoon.

The results of all this positive action is that he constantly amazes his doctors. Now unfortunately Multiple Sclerosis is a chronic, progressive disease without a cure. My friend now uses a cane for short walks and a scooter for longer treks. But what has not changed is his positive attitude. He does not talk about MS orwell on the fact that he is handicapped. He would probably bristle at the fact that someone would use the term to define him.

The lesson here is simple, but substantial. We all will or have faced challenges in our lives. Hopefully not as challenging as my friend's. It is not the challenges whether it be a disease, physical injury, mental or physical problem, but how we deal with these issues that truly makes a difference. Whenever I feel a little tired or just want to roll over and pull the covers over my head I think of what my friend goes through each and every day.

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The Invisible Wounds Of Psycho-Emotional Child Abuse

Introduction

Adults who experienced psychological / emotional abuse in childhood are often unaware of the fact that they were abused victims. They may experience intermittent or chronic anxiety, depression, addiction, and other mental health issues, and often struggle to form healthy attachments / relationships. Once recognized, the adult survivor's reports of emotional abuse sustained in childhood may be motivated by skepticism, blatant disbelief, 'blaming the victim', and even silence and / or indifference, which may further deter the adult survivor from seeking treatment. Many adult survivors continue to be psycho-emotionally abused as a consequence of wanting to stay connected to the perpetrator, who is often a part of, or nearly connected to, the survivor's original nuclear family. This article explores behaviors associated with the psycho-emotional abuse of a child; the signs and symptoms a child and adult survivor may exhibit as a result of this particular form of abuse; and recommendations regarding possible pathways of healing.

The Hidden Wounds of Psychological / Emotional Abuse

Psychological / Emotional abuse experienced in childhood can be insidious: It is insidious because the adult survivor is often unaware that they were in fact victims of abuse, and therefore may not ever seek help or treatment for the invisible psychological and emotional wounds sustained. When healthy mental and emotional functioning is impaired, such an adult is at high risk of developing a variety of mood disorders, addictive behaviors, and other maladaptive ways of being in the world in his or her subconscious attempts to navigate around the pain of an injured psyche.

This type of abuse, when repetitive and / or chronic , results in the child unconsciously believing that he or she is faulty, damaged, and unworthy of love, empathy, attention, and respect. The abused child developed distorted perceptions of self and others, often believing at an unconscious level that there is something wrong with them and that they must deserve the abuse. Such children typically strive life-long to be accepted and approved by others as a means of provoking to themselves that they are 'okay' and worthy of love. Having little self-worth, adult survivors of child abuse often find themselves in neglectful, even abusive relationships despite their best intentions to find happiness and love. They may go on to abuse their own children without being conscious of the fact that they are engaging in the very same hurtful behaviors that were infected upon them as children.

In the event that an adult survivor does for some reason seek the help of a mental Heath professional, such as a licensed psychotherapist, they still may not receive the psycho-education and targeted support that they so desirefully need to recover from abuse experienced while they were young. This is especially likely if the childhood wounds remain entirely unrecognized and go unreported by the client and / or the therapist unconsciously colludes with their client to prevent the painful material from occurring in session (this is especially likely if the therapist has repressed childhood wounds of their own). Successful treatment and recovery from this particular form of child abuse is especially challenging in that the adult survivor in therapy may still be experiencing mental / emotional abuse as a consequence of wanting to remain connected to those who continue to abuse them (most commonly parents) .

According to Andrew Vachss, an attorney and author who has devoted his life to protecting children, the mental / emotional abuse of a child is “both the most pervasive and the least understood form of child maltreatment. are not visible … The pain and torment of those who experienced “only” emotional abuse is often trivialized. We understand and accept that victims of physical or sexual abuse need both time and specialized treatment to heal, but when it comes to emotional abuse , we are more likely to believe the victims will “just get over it” when they become adults. This claim is dangerously wrong. Emotional abuse scars the heart and damages the soul. Like cancer, it does its most deadly work internally. And, like cancer, it can metastasize if untreated “( You Carry The Cure In Your Own Heart, A. Vachss).

An Abuse Of Power

While experts still do not agree on what behaviors institute psychological / emotional abuse of a child, it is generally recognized by researchers that this form of abuse impairs the psychological and emotional growth and development of the child. Anyone that holds power, authority and / or privilege in the child's life is potentially capable of mistreating the child, including parents, siblings, relatives, peers, teachers, ministers, scout leaders, coaches, judicial figures, social service employees, etc. The words 'repetitive', 'chronic', 'persistent', and 'systematic' are critical when it comes to defying the psycho-emotional abuse of a child . The behavior is abusive when it acts as a continuously destructive force in the child's life, as the repetitive maltreatment shapes the child's unconscious narrative describing the truth of who they are at the most basic, fundamental level, resulting in the child believing they are 'bad', unworthy, faulty, damaged, unwanted, and unlovable.

Examples of this type of abuse by a parent towards a child include the child being blamed, shamed, dismissed, and / or belittled in public and at home; describing the child negatively to others, including in the child's presence; always making the child at fault; holding the child to unrealistic expectations; verbalizing to the child and / or others an overt dislike and / or hatred of the child; being emotionally closed and unsupportive; and threatening the child. Below is a list that highlights additional acts exhibited towards a child that can result in impaired psycho-emotional functioning, which can include words, actions, complete indifference, and / or neglect:

  • Abandonment of the child (physical and / or emotional)
  • Verbal abuse (including calling the child “stupid”, “dumb”, “idiot”, “worthless”)
  • Intentionally terrorizing / frightening the child
  • Sarcasm, criticism, 'teasing'; Ridiculing or insulting the child, then telling the child “it's a joke” or “you're too sensitive /” you have no sense of humor ”
  • 'Gaslighting', lying, distorting reality
  • Excessive performance demands (eg, “You need to make straight A's, all the time, or else”)
  • Shaming / Punishing a child for exhibiting natural behaviors (eg, spontaneously and emotionally honest expressions, playing, laughing, age-appropriate body exploration, including masturbation)
  • Discouraging attachment / Withholding basic physical nurturing and touch
  • Overtly or covertly punishing the child for displaying positive self-esteem (eg, “Do not be so full of yourself, nobody likes a braggart”; “The world will knock you down a peg or two soon enough”)
  • Overtly or covertly punishing the child for developing healthy attachments (eg, “You love your friends more than me”)
  • Dressing the child in a manner that provokes ridicule from peers and / or in a manner that the child experiences as shaming and humiliating
  • Exposing the child to traumatic / violent family scenes
  • Exposing the child to a chronically stressful, traumatizing environment (eg, alcoholism; drug addiction; domestic abuse)
  • Unwillingness or inability to provide genuine nurturing and affection on a daily basis
  • Meeting basic physical needs only; unwilling to nurture and comfort the child (eg, ignorant emotional needs; shaming the child for having emotional needs)
  • Failing to provide a growth-evoking environment for the child, including neglecting to nurture and support the child's growing sense of self
  • Making the child an emotional 'spouse' / partner (common after a divorce)
  • 'Parentifying' the child: Forcing the child to take on inappropriate parenting tasks versus allowing him or her to be a child
  • Expecting / Demanding the child meets the primary caregiver's emotional needs (when it is supposed to be the other way around)
  • Social isolation: Isolating the child, including from peers
  • Bullying (psychological domination of the child)

Why Does It Happen?

Psycho-Emotional abuse is caused by many of the same dynamics that cause any form of child abuse to occur. In the case of abuse committed by the parents / primary caregiver, they may simply be unconsciously repeating multi-generational patterns of abuse, ie, they are acting out the same dysfunctional behaviors towards their children that their own parents displayed towards them. In addition, daily life stressors that build up over time may cause parents to take their frustrations out on their own child, who represent the one 'thing' they may feel they have control over, particularly if the child is adding to their sense that life is chaotic, out-of-control, and unmanageable. Social and economic pressures; lack of parental education; addictive processes occurring within the family (alcohol, drug use, denial, enabling, codependency); undiagnosed / diagnosed mental and / or emotional illness; a society that does little to recognize, acknowledge, and stop the abuse of children -All of these factors, and more, can contribute to the maltreatment of a child. In addition, erroneous beliefs about effective and healthy child-rearing techniques may also result in the maltreatment of one's own child. In some rare and tragic cases, a parent may actually enjoy sadistically towards their children, receiving pleasure by inflicting pain onto their dependent child's vulnerable psyche. Abusers in general often enjoy feeling a sense of being 'in control', making children an easy and rewarding target.

Recognizing The Signs

Curiously, despite the prevalence of psycho-emotional child abuse throughout the world, there are very few well-validated methods designed to measure non-physical child abuse and its effects on the survivor. Clinicians will often use revised versions of the Child Abuse and Trauma Scale (CATS), which does have some ability to measure mental-emotional abuse. A child's behavior and personality will often provide clues to a sensitive and / or trained and qualified observer that these types of abuse symptoms are evident. Such behaviors and personality displays may include:

  • Behavior that is noticeably immature or more mature when compared to the child's age
  • Dramatic, at times abrupt changes in behavior
  • Constant seeking of attention and affection; Clinging to attachment figures
  • Aggressive, uncooperative, combative behavior
  • Bed-wetting / Loss of bowel control (after the child is potty-trained)
  • Depression and / or Anxiety, which in children is often expressed as physical illness such as digestive disorders, migraines, eating disorders, addictive / compulsive behaviors, etc. Also, as expressed through social withdrawal, anger, aggressiveness, remoteness, and sadness
  • Impaired relationships with peers
  • Lack of self-confidence / self-esteem
  • Atypical fears, given the child's age (eg, fear of the dark, fear being alone, fear of certain objects, fear of dying)
  • Emotionally 'flat': Unable to express emotions, 'flat' affect (ie, lack of appropriate facial expressions); may include inability to respond to common social cues appropriatively; may prevent the development of emotional bonds

The Impact On Adult Survivors

Abuse experienced during childhood can negatively impact the adult survivor through the duration of their lives, if the silent damage to heart, soul, and mind remains unrecognized, untreated, and unhealed. If the adult survivor of an abusive parent does at some point attempt to address the abuse, it is typical for the parent to deny that maltreatment of the child ever happened. It is common for the parent to blame the child for any negative behaviors displayed by the child toward the parent in an attempt to discredit the child's or adult survivor's truthful accounts of the abuse that actually occurred. The parent will often go to great lengths to tell anyone who will listen (other family members, especially) that their adult child has always been “a problem”, is “angry” and “unforgiving”, and other negative descriptions designed to discredit the adult survivor and protect the public image of the parent. Such intentionally aggressive tactics on the part of the parent is simply another unrecognized form of psycho-emotional abuse and further adds to the untold suffering and distress of the adult survivor, who may already be struggling with mental and emotional symptoms, such as the ones listed below:

  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Active or passive suicidal ideation
  • Misuse of alcohol and drugs, often resulting in addiction
  • Eating disorders
  • Panic disorders
  • Compulsive disorders
  • Agoraphobia
  • Difficulty forming meaningful, rewarding, trusting intimate relationships
  • Self-sabotaging, self-destructive behaviors (may include Borderline Personality Disorder-type symptoms)
  • Abusive acts towards self and / or others, including one's own children

Healing: Awareness Is The First Step

Adults who believe they may be suffering from the effects of childhood abuse are encouraged to seek the help of a therapist that has specialized training in helping clients recover from the intrapsychic damage specific to the mental and emotional abuse of a child. Adult survivors engaged in psychotherapy will typically experience feelings such as denial, anger, bargaining, depression, rage, acceptance, and grief as the veil of protective illusion lifts, exposing the adult survivor to dark and ugly truths formerly repressed. As childhood abuse often results in the child disconnecting from the most true and authentic parts of him or herself, therapy is also a means of inviting the adult survivor to risk connecting with self and others in meaningful, emotionally honest ways. The therapist will also help guide the adult survivor on matters relating to discussing the abuse with others; whether or not to remain connected to abusive family members; and how to manage interactions with abusive people that they choose not to sever connections with.

In addition to skillful therapy, online groups like Adult Survivors of Child Abuse can be particularly helpful in regard to providing additional support, education, and resources while undergoing a process of intensive 'core' healing. Books such as Adult Children of Abusive Parents: A Healing Program For Those Who Have Been Physically, Sexually, or Emotionally Abused and The Body Keeps The Score: Brain, Mind, And Body In The Healing Of Trauma can also provide invaluable information regarding healing from all forms of childhood abuse, as can skillful body / mind therapeutic modalities, such as Hakomi Therapy .

What Can Be Done To Help Affected Children?

If abuse of a child of any kind is suspected, it is the observer's responsibility to report their concerns to their local Child Protection agency. It is the agency's job to investigate any reports of abuse, including abuse that may be non-physical in nature. Psycho-Emotional abuse is typically defined by such agencies as abuse that allows a child to be in a situation whereyy sustain mental / emotional injury that results in their being impaired in the areas of growth and psychological development and function. To learn more about child abuse and how and where to report any doubts you may have, refer to the Child Welfare Information Gateway website.

Conclusion

As illustrated here, the consequences experienced by the victims of psychological / emotional child abuse are potentially incalculable; however, research in this specific area has until recently been relatively sparse. The research that has been done to date suggests that children may experience lifelong patterns of disconnection, depression, anxiety, dysfunctional / 'toxic' relationships, low self-esteem, and an accessibility to experience empathy. Development processes may be impaired or even disrupted due to poor mental and emotional adjustment. By the time the child enters adolescence, they often find it difficult to trust and may find themselves unable to experience fulfillment and happiness in their interpersonal relationships, while not having any idea that the roots of their unhappiness, dissatisfaction, and distress as an adult may be found in their painful, wounding childhood. Sadly, if they become parents, adult survivors may have great difficulty identifying and responding empathetically and appropriately to the needs of their own children, thereby perpetuating the cycle of multi-generational abuse existing within their family system.

Alice Miller, proclaimed psychologist and author of the groundbreaking book, The Drama Of The Gifted Child: The Search For The True Self , had this to say about healing from childhood abuse: “Pain is the way to the truth. unloved as a child, you spare yourself some pain, but you are not with your own truth. And through your whole life you'll try to earn love “(A. Miller, The Roots Of Violence ). Ultimately, healing the invisible wounds of any form of child abuse requires the adult survivor to bravely acknowledged even the most painful and incomprehensible truths; hence, the decision to take responsibility for one's own well-being and healing is a most courageous act indeed. Perhaps it is also time that we ask ourselves as a society how we may be contributing to the continued abuse of children through our individence, and what we are willing to do collectively to change this so that no child need ever believe that they are unworthy and undeserving of being loved.

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How to Live With Your Energies

Introduction

Have you noticed how some things are easier to do on certain days than on other days? There are times when you can quickly and comfortably perform certain tasks, and certain other times when you are rather lethargic and cumbersome doing the very same tasks.

And, here, I'm not talking about the actual amount of energy that someone has, but rather the TYPE of energy that one has present in their body at a GIVEN time.

When the small Tasks seem Hard

For instance, filling in even a small application form is mind-numbingly unappealing on certain days, whereas on another day, when having the right inclination (and sometimes the 'right' type of strength and energy), even a very long form can ( it feels like) be done with the 'click of a finger' !? A certain type of energy would appear to be present on such days!

This particular energy sees to facilitate the easy execution of certain tasks and jobs.

When to Work, when to Play and when to Relax

One can summarize that person who needs to recognize the different energies present within him / her at any given time so that he / she can take advantage of them and carry out certain jobs (appropriate to the energy present at that given time) with more ease . In this way a person can have a good idea as to what tasks can be better performed at what times – and at what times it would be appropriate for them to rest or relax. And, indeed, when to play sports and do other types of leisure activities and pursuits.

Further to this, and my experience with these varied types of energy bears this out, it might well be 'prudent' to consider what type of work or what type of sport or leisure activity one may engage in at any (precise even) given time .

Choose Tasks / Jobs accordingly

I myself and others, who are subject to these diverse energies that come and go from the body, find that I need to 'time-table' tasks / jobs according to the energies present at different times. I choose particular tasks at particular times. The tasks chosen to perform being the ones for which the present energy gives great inclining towards.

For this reason I find it best to have my own business, so that I can be my own 'boss', and that can be able to arrange my own time-table for work and life in general.

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The Benefits Of Living An Active Lifestyle

The Benefits of Having an Active Lifestyle

Who would have thought that having an active lifestyle can completely change your overall life, even your perspective about life? There are so many benefits that I can be writing hours and hours of things that can improve in your life just by spending 45 minutes or 1 hour of your day exercising. Working out can change your mood; improve your overall life and many more benefits. Before getting involved in exercising I always thought that the only reason why people went to the gym was because they wanted to look better. Actually, there are many more reasons why is becoming something fundamental in people's life.

Health benefits

One of the most important benefits of exercising is the health benefits that come with it. Yes! Just 45 minutes of your day can significantly improve your health. Exercise is necessary for our bodies; they need to be moved throughout the day, and by doing this it certainly reduces the risk of high blood pressure and also reduces the risk of heart disease and many other diseases. Working out reduces stress significantly and can even reduce the level of depression. I am sure everyone has seen the movie Forrest Gump in which he decides to run miles and miles after a breakup, what a great example, isn't it?

Look better, feel better

It is a fact that when you look better your confidence increases significantly. You are certainly going to feel better with yourself, your stamina will increase and you are basically going to be more productive through the day. These benefits can even help you in the workplace and also in your relationships. For some people this might be crazy, how can somebody change so much just by exercising? When you feel good, healthy and confident you are always seeking to do something different, new experiences, new goals or just some outdoor activity that at the end of the day will be beneficial for you.

Involvement in new communities

There are so many different ways to have an active lifestyle that this will definitely make you get involved in a different community. You can either join a weights gym, yoga, pilates, CrossFit, sports or just go to the nearest park around and exercise there. You are going to meet new people that are probably going to be very similar than you, in which they are going to have goals similar to yours and you are going to feel identify. These communities are basically a family in which they all like the same stuff and support each other to become a better person and having a better life.

How often?

It only takes a small amount of time of your day to see the benefits of exercising and having an active lifestyle. Not everyone has an open schedule to work out for 2 or 3 hours a day. Only 45 minutes is enough to get the healthy benefits of exercising. Also, three days a week is a good amount to exercise through the week.

Take care of yourself

Even though having an active lifestyle can improve your health, you have to take care of other aspects. Just because you worked out for an hour does not mean you can go and eat 3 hamburgers and soda through the day. Eating healthy and wisely is certainly linked to having a better life. I am not saying we have to eat salads every day and starve ourselves, but we have to have a balanced diet in which we need to meet our caloric intake a day and this will definitely help your overall health and life. Sleep is also necessary, if we do not get enough rest at night we are certainly going to be tired all day, which means we are not going to be as productive as we should be. Exercising, eating wisely and sleeping 8-9 is the best that you can do for your body, and trust me, he is going to thank you for that!

The benefits are unbelievable! If you are thinking about changing your lifestyle into something healthy that is going to bring something valuable and positive for your future, go and give it a try, start somewhere. In one year you are going to think that you should have started before. I promise you are going to feel great and your life can certainly make a step forward into something successful. It worked for me, and for many people I know, come join me and let's have an active lifestyle!

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6 Sports to Improve Your Health

You want to take up a sport both as a new hobby and a mean to improve your health? There are so many choices? We will give you a few suggestions in the following article.

Strengthen your muscles with Pilates

Pilates is practiced on the ground, on a mat or on devices like the reformer, a sort of bed-cart with a sliding plate, pulleys and other accessories. You can use balloons, springs or elastic. This technique is based on the control of movement and breathing, inspired by yoga, dance, and gymnastics.

It's good for what? Pilates engages all the muscles of the body. It works in harmony stabilizing muscles (postural) and mobilizing muscles (the movement). Occasionally, the practice of Pilates improves strength and coordination, develops flexibility and corrects posture by strengthening and toning muscles.

Avoid: if you suffer from diseases such as herniated disc or scoliosis.

Where to practice? Many sport centers offer Pilates classes. You can also practice at home via the internet, alone or with a personal trainer.

Stay in control of yourself with judo

Judo is a martial art that combines balance, strength, flexibility and defense techniques.

It's good for what? Judo is very physical. The whole body is stressed and you have to work seamlessly. Judo develops gestural quality, the establishment of the body image, and improves the perception of the body. Based on self-control and respect for others, judo is also good for your mind.

Avoid: if you suffer from pain at the spine or joints.

Where to practice? Club. You can also opt for another martial art such as karate or kung fu.

Work your legs with Flamenco

Flamenco is a dance coming from southern Spain. Expressive and energetic flamenco dance is characterized by the force when the feet of a dancer hit the ground

It's good for what? The striking of the feet effectively gains muscle in legs. With training, the body will be toned. By adopting an elegant posture, women can benefit a lot from Flamenco. Dance involves balance, works the abdominal and buttocks. The abdominals are strengthened, joints are loosened up gradually. Dancing is also a good way of inhibiting and taming your body.

Avoid: if you suffer from a disease of the cardiovascular or musculoskeletal.

Where to practice? In a club. You can also practice other styles of dance: tap dance, African dance, tango, salsa, hip-hop …

Sharpen your reflexes through boxing

Get in the ring and let do punches and kicks! More and more women are getting into boxing. Choice: French boxing (with fists feet) or English boxing (only fists), or the variants (very trendy) that mix fitness and boxing: body combat, body boxing …

It's good for what? Boxing is a complete aesthetic sport, which is good for both the physical and the mental health. This activity refines the silhouette, boosts cardio, and burns fat while working.

Avoid: if you have heart problems or severe vision problems.

Where to practice? In a club and even in water (aqua boxing). Equip yourself with boxing gloves, suitable footwear, and a helmet.

Upgrade your address with volleyball

Volleyball is a team sport. Two teams of six players compete to knock the ball into the opponent ground and prevent it from touching their ground. Jump to return the ball, pass to teams by using only your hands.

It's good for what? The practice of volleyball develops reflection, speed, balance, and stability. This expansion sport tones the muscles, especially strengthens the thighs, abdominals and “rushes” the silhouette. Volleyball promotes coordination and concentration. It also helps to socialize.

Avoid: if you suffer from back problems.

Where to practice? In a room, on a stage and even on the beach in summer with beach volleyball!

Burn fat through the step

The step is a toned fitness technique. You stand on a solid stepper and make very stable walking in rhythm and choreography. You can vary the level of difficulty by adjusting the height of the step.

It's good for what? The step engages all muscles of the body; it works the thighs and buttocks intensely. Your practice gains endurance and allows better control of the breath. The step is an energetic activity that helps to burn calories.

Avoid: if you have problems with joints: the knee bends and repeated leaps put a strain on fragile joints.

Where to practice? In a gym or fitness center, or at home.

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Explanations For Mental Health Problems And Religious Mysteries In Dreams

The Biblical narrative about Adam and Eve and the fact that the first human beings had to stop living in the Garden of Even reflects the tragic destiny of the human race.

Since then, we have to work and suffer in order to survive. Our disobedience to God's guidance is the reason why we can not live in a paradise.

You may wonder why you should pay for the first human beings' sin. However, the explanation why you have to work and suffer because of their disobedience is obvious now that I discovered the existence of the anti-conscience. Now you know that the largest part of your brain belongs to your satanic conscience.

Your anti-conscience is a demon. It makes you think like a demon.

Since you think like a demon, you are a demon. A demon does not obey God's guidance. Therefore, you obviously have the same satanic behavior of the first human beings.

This fact was confirmed in the Apocalypse of John. He predicted that blood would cover the earth and the ocean. Our wars and crimes proved that this prediction became true.

John predicted that blood would cover the earth and the ocean because we are cruel demons. However, we could not understand the meaning of this prediction.

My discoveries after continuing Carl Jung's research give scientific and religious explanations to the world.

God produces our dreams in order to cure our underdeveloped conscience, which is influenced by our satanic anti-conscience all the time.

This means that you have to suffer in order to stop being a demon and become a human being, like the tiny part of your brain transformed by God into a conscience that works based on human standards. You have to accept suffering when necessary, instead of causing suffering.

Your tiny conscience must help God transform your huge anti-conscience into a human being and agree with your suffering when you will have to do something you dislike in order to eliminate your evil anti-conscience, and become really human.

The only way you can transform the demon exists in your brain into a human being is obeying God's guidance in your dreams and in your religion. You have to stop making the tragic mistake of the first human beings, and obey the divine guidance in your dreams, without doubting that God knows what is best for you.

This is how you will become really human. God grant you a human conscience to help you understand this fact. Even though your conscience is absurd and evil because of your satanic nature, it can be completely developed and become wise and pure if you will follow God's psychotherapy.

Alone you can only become a victim of your satanic anti-conscience, which will easily destroy your conscience through craziness and transform you into a monster.

Since you are a demon, you are indignant and cruel. Your goodness is false. You merely pretended to be human. You must be afraid of your violent nature.

However, you do not understand this fact with the knowledge you have. You believe that you are human because you can see only your conscience.

You can not see the demon that lives in the wild side of your conscience, but the truth is that you are more a demon than a human being. Your anti-conscience is huge, while your conscience is only a spot.

Since the largest part of your brain is absurd and evil, you are mentally ill from birth. You simply become more mentally ill when you start having unbearable symptoms.

You have to develop your conscience through dream translation until you will become a wise and sensitive human being and you will definitively stop having mental health problems and making mistakes.

My work clarifies religious mysteries and unexplained phenomena because it is based on God's revelations in dreams.

I'm showing to the world that all human beings are cruel demons, and explaining many facts thanks to the knowledge I acquired through dream translation because God chose me. He prepared me to discover everything I'm teaching you and He showed me what I had to find.

I would never be able to discover the existence of the satanic anti-conscience based on my personal speculations. In the beginning of my research (in 1984) I was young and ignorant.

Fortunately, I was a very good student and a very obedient patient. This was how I was completely cured and transformed, and I managed to help many other people thanks to dream translation based on Carl Jung's method of dream interpretation.

Carl Jung had concluded that the wise unconscious mind was God's mind, but he did not conclude that he had to seriously obey the divine guidance in dreams like I did. I was lucky because God helped me find Jung's work, and his work helped me find God.

Jung could not understand the true importance of his discoveries with the knowledge he had. My work completed his research and clarified his obscure method of dream interpretation because I deliberately obeyed the Divine guidance in my dreams and in various signs of my reality that could have been interpreted like dreams.

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How to Be at Peace With Food and Body

Often times we have the best intentions of cleaning up our diet, exercise more, avoid processed food, chemicals, and get healthier in general. However, a lot of us create a lot of stress around our food, health, and nutrition, and in the process we end up doing the very thing that we are trying to avoid, because we become uptight and obsessed about it all.

All that stress is a real drainer, and ends up hindering our ability to accomplish our goals.

How many of us health conscious individuals constantly think about our next meal, how to bring healthy food with us for work, travel, how to choose the best restaurant to eat at so we can stick with our plan, how to eat healthy at a family Egypt social function, etc …

So, how do we live a healthy lifestyle, be accountable for our goals, and in the process not over -stress, or become neurotic about it? How do we do this in a relaxed, confident way?

After a long journey, I finally came to an answer for this question, and it is something that requires constant practice, because most of us are simply not used to it, and so we need to train ourselves, and implement this new habit.

I am talking about tuning into our inner wisdom. Our body has all the knowledge that we constantly seek for outside ourselves. Our body was designed to be healthy, to heal itself, and to have joy, and it will guide you in your choices if you let it.

I have found that the most challenging part of listening to my body was to actually trust that it will guide me in the right direction, I really was not used to trusting my own self, but once I slid into this space it really bought me a lot of peace, and the trust continues to develop every day.

Here are a few things that helped me to develop trust and tune in

– Exercise un-timed and un-tracked. I focused on moving in a way that felt good at the moment, and pay attention to when it was time to stop.

– Become aware of what your body gravates towards, and avoid over analyzing your choices when it comes to food, exercise, etc. Eat, enjoy what you ate, let go, and move on.

– Believe that your body wants to be healthy, and that it will lead you towards health. We were designed to function well, heal, evolve, and enjoy life. Truly, and genetically listening to your body in a compassionate way will not lead you to over or under eat, over train, or hurt yourself in any way.

– Become more of an observer of your likes, dislikes, choices, feelings, reactions, etc, and less of a critic or judge. Observe and learn about yourself.

– Make food, and exercise choices according to how they make you feel, and not so much according to the beliefs on “benefits” or “disadvantages” that you hold about those choices. Finding what feels good takes curiosity, and experimentation, trial an error. Be kind to yourself, and flexible. Notice and learn.

– When we go against our wish of eating healthy or exercising to look good, probably means that there is a bigger, stronger wish or need that we are trying to fulfill. tuning in, and slowing down will allow you to discover your deepest needs.

Modern life has us living contrary to nature, so it is important for us to tune our senses to take in the signals our body is giving us. By doing so, we can rebalance our priorities and create the life we ​​want to live rather than living in reaction to everyone and everything else around us.

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Ten Healthiest Tips for Starting Your Day Right

1. After sleeping and resting for 6 to 8 hours, it is time to improve your body activities. Do those things that accelerate a smooth blood flow. Walk across your home.

Take a large glass of water to enhance your health

Try to sit on a floor, and stretch for health. Stretch your legs, torso, back, legs, and arms.

2. Meditation for a joyful mind

When you wake up from your bed daily, sit on the floor, and stretch your legs.

Close your two eyes, place your two hands on your knees, and practice breathing exercise.

Accept those thoughts that rush to your mind, release and acknowledge them as they come to your mind.

Concentrate on your breath. It has to be a deep breath in and breath out, do them on the count of three.

When you are looking for direction, ask questions about those goals you seek. The answer may not come immediately, but you would find the answers in the course of the day.

3. Brush, wash, and shower your body

Avoid making your thoughts wander about. Just concentrate on your daily routines and, not be bothered about what the day will turn out to be.

4. Put down what you want to do for the day

After spending two-minute intervals writing down what you want to achieve for the day, spend the following minutes writing down whatever comes to your mind. It has to do with the things you want to achieve for the day.

After two minutes, look again, at what you have written and compare them with your goal. Thirty minutes are okay for this.

5. For the next hour, skip, walk, dance, and jump around. This will help you, as it releases those endorphins inside you. This makes you productive and happy for the day.

Research has indicated that morning exercises set the tone for a healthy day. Never ignore your morning exercise.

6. Take heavy quantities of green smoothie

Nutrition should be part of your daily menu every morning. This revs your metabolism and helps your brain.

Prepare veggies and fresh fruits. You can try something like a smoothie mixed with oranges, apples, spinach and ginger, as well as apple juice and mango.

7. Consume protein

Protein is essential, because it restores your muscles, keeps you full, and enhances your brain. This results overeating in the morning. Meditation and super food help you a lot.

Your first meal every morning should be food served with eggs and low-fat cheese, Greek yogurt, seeds, beans as well as peanut and so on. Where it is a smoothie, garnish it with protein powder.

8. Sit down, breathe, and stay for at least five minutes. This makes you positive and alert.

9. Think of your body accomplishing a lot successfully and effortlessly

10. To achieve your daily tasks effortlessly, review each plan in your mind. Plan your daily routines; think about the presentation you would make, and concentrate on positive things alone.

As the day goes by, watch and see the way things turned out.

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5 A Day – 5 Daily Habits That Could Keep You Happy & Healthy

Many people have their routines and rituals each day. Sometimes they work for a lot of people and sometimes they work perfectly for an individual. Here are the essential “5 A Day”, daily habits that could keep you happy and healthy for the rest of your life:

1. Drink Water – Hydration is probably one of the most important factors when we think about health.

The British Nutrition Foundation recommends that women drink 1.6 liters of water per day and men drink 2 liters. This needs to be increased if you are exercising or on a hot day, when your body is losing water through sweating to keep you cool. We can get hydration from most things we drink, but we get the greatest effect when we drink plain old water. Although it's not plain – water contains many minerals essential for health, such as calcium, magnesium and potassium. We recommend that you drink bottled water only and not tap water, which contains many additives that can be detrimental to health such as chlorine and fluoride. Most quality bottled waters show the mineral content on the label as well as the source, but some bottled waters do not and these are best avoided.

On the other side, you can be over hydrated and this can be as problematic and detrimental to your health as being dehydrated. The best indicator for hydration, is the color of your urine – if you are drinking sufficient water then it will be a pale yellow color; if you are dehydrated then it will be a dark mustard yellow; If you are drinking too much water then it will become almost clear.

Personally, I drink on average between 2 and 3 liters per day, sometimes a little more. I start my day with a 500ml bottle of water, which is consumed within 10 minutes of waking up. This replaces the water lost overnight, while we are asleep, and wakes the body up. This is followed by a mug (around 250ml) of hot water with a tablespoon of honey and a teaspoon of cinnamon in it, which those who have read my previous blogs will know has a range of benefits not least of which is thought to be regulation of the metabolism. A little later on I will have a further mug of hot water with a slice of lemon and ginger in it. Great for the digestive system, it also helps clear the sins and therefore aids breathing. We are now up to a liter.

At this point I will usually go for a run (although not every day is the same) and when I return, I down a 500ml bottle of water – if I do not run then I do not have this 500ml. Once shaved me will then grab another mug of hot water with lemon and ginger, before heading off to do other work. I drink another 500ml bottle of water whilst I am cooking dinner, and top it off with another during the evening – I do not really drink tea, coffee or alcohol and do not drink processed drinks (fruit juices and fizzy drinks) at all. I do also have a juice pretty much every day, but water from fruit and vegetables is additional to what you should be drinking every day – water from fruit and vegetables makes up 20% of your total water intake, the British Nutrition Foundation claims, so the other 80% is the water you drink.

If I am working, then I carry bottles of water in my car and will drink it whilst I am in my car, to ensure that I always stay hydrated as I do not always get a drink whilst at a booking. Obviously what I have described in this section is an average day – some days I drink less and others maybe a little more. I check my pH levels once a week and the color of my urine each time I go to the toilet and this allows me to ensure that I am not over or under hydrating my body, and also allows me to adjust my water intake as necessary to maintain a healthy level of hydration.

2. Exercise – Regular exercise is essential to maintaining health and happiness and just like hydration, you can over exercise and you can under exercise. It is not healthy to exercise too much, unless you are an athlete and under the guidance of professional health monitoring. Under exercising, is also detrimental to health and can result in all sorts of health issues, including diabetes and obesity which in extreme cases can lead to death. The NHS recommends that in order to maintain health at a stable rate we should do 150 minutes of moderate aerobic exercise a week (that's walking quickly or cycling) and strength exercises on two or more days a week (that is exercises that work all of your muscles, such as sit ups and press ups). Swimming, circuit training and aerobics classes like Body Pump and Boxercise combine both of these in one activity.

Regular exercise will ensure that you burn off any excess calories that you may have consumed and may be sitting around waiting to turn into fat and also ensuring that your organs continue to work healthily. Regular exercise also helps you maintain your strength and agility and can help you to improve your quality of life. In addition to the physical health benefits, regular exercise also benefits your mental health – a simple 20-30 minute walk each day in the fresh air can make you a happier person, as you are outside taking in the sights and sounds, breathing in fresh air and having an opportunity to clear your mind. Exercise is also known to make the body release hormones, called endorphins, such as oxytocin and serotonin otherwise known as “the feel good hormones” and this is why it is known to combat things like depression and stress.

The level of exercise provided by the NHS is what is required to maintain a “normal” state of health and body shape. If you want to lose weight or tone up your muscles then you need to do more than that, around double what is prescribed by the NHS.

I give credit for my physical and mental health to my exercise regime, especially my running – this is something I only started in January 2015, thanks to my Personal Trainer at the time, but has revolutionized both my physical and mental wellbeing. Currently, I do circuit training, in the form of a boot camp type class, on a Saturday and Wednesday at my local gym. These classes last for an hour and are an all body, all organ work out being both aerobic and strength training. I then also do a 40-50 minute run 3-4 times a week, after which I do strength exercises in the form of press ups, sit ups and triceps dips (at least).

Following this has improved my physical appearance, helped me lose weight and allowed me to grow my self-esteem and confidence. This in turn has improved my mental health and happiness – I am now at a point where stress is very rare and if I do get low stress it is on a very low level and lasts a very short time; I have no worries, as running and exercise in general allow me to free my mind of the days worries and return afterwards with a fresh and clear mind; I am constantly positive and happy, regardless of situation – I feel great constantly and this means that negativity really can not find a place to stay. Keeping yourself in this place regularly and consistently is the way to ensure a positive, healthy and happy outlook.

Exercise is one of the most underused antidepressants known to man – go and do it today, you will not regret it. Start simply (with a walk and some basic exercises) and work your way up. You will feel unstoppable and when you feel that way, you are that way. You can achieve ANYTHING !!!

3. Eat Nuts – Yes, eat nuts. Nuts are great for your health (especially the happiness center – the brain) and for your heart; they are jam packed full of nutrients and essential Omega fatty acids. They are especially rich in Omega-3, Vitamin E, essential fiber and antioxidants, as well as unsaturated fats. We are not talking about dry roasted, honey roasted or salted nuts but raw unprocessed nuts preferably straight from the shell. As most of us are not lucky enough to have nut trees growing in our gardens, the second best option is organic untreated nuts available in every supermarket.

I eat nuts daily, and if I want a real treat then I will mix them with a little dried fruit – cranberries, goji berries, sultanas, raisins, apricot pieces etc. As little as 10 grams of nuts a day can be enough to lower your risk of heart disease and other illnesses, but people who eat a lot of nuts may have an even lower risk of mortality and developing chronic diseases, including respiratory disease, neurodegenerative disease , diabetes, cancer, and heart disease, according to a new study published in the International Journal of Epidemiology.

One 2010 study notes that “by virtue of their unique composition, nuts are likely to beneficially affect health outcomes. Epidemiologic studies have associated nut consumption with a decreased incidence of coronary heart disease and gallstones in both genders and diabetes in women,” and “studies Consistently show that nut intake has a cholesterol-lowering effect. ”

Nuts taste great too and different nuts have different effects, for instance almonds are calcium rich and therefore if you avoid dairy (as I do) then these can be a great way to get your daily intake, the skins of whole almonds also contain heart -protecting flavonoids; brazils are selenium rich, great for a healthy immune system and to aid thyroid function (just 3 or 4 brazils a day is enough to get all of the selenium you need); walnuts are what I call the “happy nut” and have been shown to help in cases of mild depression, they are also rich in antioxidants so are useful in the fight against cancer as we as having heart healing and cholesterol lowering properties.

4. Eat Chocolate – Can be healthy and happy really get any better ?! If you like your milk chocolate, then I'm sorry. We are talking PLAIN chocolate ONLY I'm afraid – the darker (higher percentage cocoa content) the better. Also we are not going to be gorging on it – everything in moderation (a 100g bar of dark chocolate = 600 calories)! It has to be the best health supplement around! I find that I look forward to my little bit of chocolate every day (I favor Green & Blacks), trouble is sometimes I forget to have it and I can not, make up for it the next day.

There are a few proven health benefits to eating dark chocolate:

• It's nutritious – loaded with minerals (iron, copper, magnesium and manganese mainly) and has a high soluble fiber content (around 10% of it is soluble fiber)

• It is rich in antioxidants (polyphenols, flavanols and catechins) which fight disease causing free radicals. When tested, cacao and dark chocolate were shown to have more antioxidants than fruits such as blueberries and acai berries

• It may improve blood flow and lower blood pressure mildly – all great for feeling happier as well as being great for the health of your heart and arteries

• It lowers bad cholesterol levels in the blood

• Due to the above, it can help to lower the risk of cardiovascular disease

• Can improve blood flow to the skin and protect it against sun induced damage

• The flavonols in dark chocolate are shown to increase blood flow to the brain, thus improving brain function and capacity, in the short term

• Increases happiness – some of the naturally occurring chemicals in dark chocolate, combine with our own naturally present endorphins (like serotonin and dopamine) to produce feelings of euphoria and excitment (similar to falling in love) when we eat it and our bodies process it

Recommended “dose” – 3 squares (15-20g) per day. You can split it over the course of the day, taking one square 3 times a day, or take it all at once. I tend to take my dose at once in the late evening, VERY slowly and kindly. [Exceeding this dosage is greedy and could lead to you putting on weight! So as tempting as it is, please do not do it.]

DO NOT substitute dark chocolate with milk chocolate, because you do not like dark chocolate – milk chocolate is a completely different animal and contains higher levels of fat and sugar than dark chocolate. The cocoa content in milk chocolate is drastically lower and therefore so are the essential health providing ingredients that we find in high content dark chocolate. Ie – Milk chocolate is NOT a healthy option.

5. Meditate – Last but by no means least, meditation. Some people combine this with deep breathing or yoga or both for a more intense experience. Meditation is a deep form of relaxation, and Harvard scientists have completed a study which showed that long term practitioners of such techniques had far more “disease fighting genes” that were active compared to those who did not practice them at all. If you are not a “long term practitioner” then do not fear – the scientists found that when the control group (who had never practiced such techniques) began to practice deep relaxation methods, “After two months, their bodies began to change: the genes that help fight inflammation, kill diseased cells and protect the body from cancer all began to switch on. '' So basically it's never too late to start!

Health benefits of meditation and deep relaxation include: increased immunity; emotional balance; increased fertility; relief from IBS; lowers blood pressure; anti-inflammatory properties; calmness; with all of these comes an increased sense of inner peace and when we find inner peace we find true consistent happiness. I meditate for at least 10-15 minutes a day – that's right it does not have to be a long time – sometimes a lot lot longer. If you are new to meditation, then I would recommend you find guided meditations via YouTube (there are plenty of them to choose from), take yourself away from everything where there are no distractions, press play, close your eyes, relax and prepare to feel transformed.

There you have it, my 5 a day … 5 daily habits that could keep you happy and healthy. I know that since I combined these 5 and started to practice them daily, I have never been in a better place, both mentally and physically. My life has been transformed and I hope that yours will be too.

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Fitness Image VS Fitness Health

You are amazing. Yes, you!

We tend to compare ourselves to photo shopped billboard models. Often we motivate ourselves to work out so we can look like them. The problem with this is that our motivation is external – we must look like someone else. Long term this can lead to low motivation, over training and under eating and worst of all – low self-esteem.

What if I told you that you could look incredible and live the life you dream about by simply flipping your motivation to internal – make your goals about you!

Here's how:

A Dream board

Build yourself a vision board and stick it somewhere you can see it prominently. This will help you pinpoint what you want instead of society's suggestions. I will be doing another article on how you can make an awesome vision board soon but for guidance you should think about the following questions:

What is my purpose in life? Eg to be a great mother and charity worker

Who do I want in my life? Eg a family, close friends, a boyfriend / husband.

How do I want to feel? Eg Full of vitality and energy!

How do I want to look? Eg Do I want to lose some weight, have glowing skin etc.

Tailor your exercise and nutrition plans to your individual needs

There is a generic guideline set by the professional bodies however, I would recommend to have a nutrition plan and fitness program designed for you personally based on both your physical form and nutritious well-being as well as your current lifestyle. It is more beneficial as we are all unique with various heights, physical forms as well as health.

A perfect example is what I currently drew up for myself. As I have recently given birth and have lack of nutrition my requirement daily is a lot higher than the generic guide. My fitness program is focused primarily on building my muscle foundation rather than appearance, is very minimal with more focus on stretches to regain strength and improve its usage. If you are also a new mother please be very careful with certain fitness programs. Do not go 200 mph in your first session! This can cause injuries and set-backs.

Make your health a priority

Life can get really busy, very quickly. Often the first thing to give is our focus on our well-being. I would like to encourage those who are already at the gym and those that are not to focus this year on not just your job or your finances. This can take work and is not easy but put it this way. Are you going to get that promotion if your eating and lack of exercise means you suffer from burnout or worse?

Train smart NOT hard

It is very easy to starve ourselves and train to the point of exhaustion once we set a goal of getting fit and losing weight. The irony of this is that in the longer term this will take you further away from your goals.

When I talk about fitness I encourage and support functional physical forms and strengthening foundations, in other words working on every part of your muscles and making the most of them.

Over the recent years there has been many discussions and discussions regarding fitness and peoples goals. Please do not pay any mind to the media or social pressure to look a certain way. Eat healthy, work on your foundations and be at the place you want to be (not what society dictates you should be). Focusing on imagery than the muscles itself can prove to have later caused health problems as these are unnaturally built.

Please see a professional with experience when creating a program and be open about your medical histories / lifestyle as these can play a huge factor to creating injuries if untold.

Say no to social pressure and imagery but yes to being who you want to be and doing so healthily! Question is, who do you want to be?

Xo Love and Light oX

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Why I Think a Healthy Body Is Vital for a Healthy Mind

I have trained my body for years. I think I have an above average fitness level. Why then did I struggle so much with mental health issues?

Being in the army, I always prided myself on being in the top third when it came to fitness. Whether in a cross country run, boxing or weight training I always pushed to the top. This was permanently being a big build which should have hindered low bodyweight to strength activities such as running or climbing.

Most recently I have agreed CrossFit training with the same enthusiasm. I have lost a lot of weight and made incredible strength gains. I love it. But I do wonder if I'm obsessive about it. I also wonder whether I do it as it helps me stay on the straight and narrow.

You see I am all or nothing. I'll eat carefully, train hard and not drink alcohol. Or I'll do the complete opposite. It's the same in love, at work and anything else I do. No taking it easy for me.

When your mind has taken a battering over the years, it's best to be gentle with it rather than destroy it with booze. That's why I train hard. So that I Do not feel like losing all my gains and feeling like crap for a week. I'd rather keep going but do know that an occasional blow-out is necessary.

That's why I accept it as an occupational hazard, something I do the minimum amount of times possible. That way I keep my mind strong which allows me to face any of life's problems with a positive perspective.

It's quite clear that we all have a multitude of problems which we face on a daily basis. It's part of life. But it's also how we deal with them which defines us. I prided myself on my ability to face any problem with a calm demeanor from combat situations to demanding bosses. But I could not transfer that ability to my personal life. It lead me to lose my family. Something which has devastated everyone involved and which I do not know whenever I can recover from.

That's why I had to spend six months trying to understand why I was the way that I was. How I could use physical training to benefit my mental health and how I could mitigate the mistakes I've made.

It's the most difficult process I've ever connected but I hope I can recover what has been lost.

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